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Program & More Info about Dark Erotic workshop

Innate Wisdom Connection / Program & More Info about Dark Erotic workshop


This workshop includes letting go of shame and guilt, resolving old blocks to self-expression, becoming more confident and empowered, integrating more of one’s personal truth, releasing trauma residue, knowing, accepting and enjoying personal shadows,

The path to the ‘dark’ erotic can be solidly grounded, personally engaged, honoring of individual sensitivities, trauma-aware, a gradually unfolding authentic exploration, and a co-designed journey of mutual incredibly beautiful connection and self-discovery. This informative, experiential workshop teaches the empowered foundations of approaching these magical interactions with deep authenticity.

Enjoy the safety of a framework of grounded in consent and realness along with expert guidance, and opportunities to share and discuss your curiosities. All supported by an engaging range of fun and fascinating exercises. This weekend opens us (to the level you choose to go) into our deeper erotic natures – that we don’t usually allow to be felt, expressed and enjoyed.

PLEASE NOTE: Fiction & Reality. Whether you love and enjoy them or not, works of fiction are exactly that – fictitious/unreal. Some relatively recent works of fiction have promoted a potentially very unsafe way of approaching the shadow erotic via a fantasy world of unrealistic situations and individuals. If your main motivation to attend this workshop is because you love such books and want to recreate some of the interactions within them, it is still very relevant however please remember that being guided and supported into deep erotic connection and healing shadow-play will have very little to do with fiction and you may be invited to expand your viewpoint. Kinky romance fiction is not reality, and in our opinion these books really needed to be prefaced with a disclaimer that they were never intended to be templates for anyone’s real lives.


(Subject to fluidity and flexibility of course)

DAY ONE: Introductions, getting to know each other, having some fun, and discussing what we will do and how we will have a safe, exciting, deep time together.

We gently explore aspects of our developmental psychology such as conditioned shame and guilt (not to ‘get rid of them’, but simply to acknowledge these parts of ourselves as it is important to be aware of for our journey this weekend). Plus learning and practising methods of raw, honest connection, and how to discover your own personal levels and types of interest. (Freeing yourself from the assumed stereotypes.) Practical Authentic Relating exercises, healthy emotional expression, fun and exploratory sharing, movement, healing processes and body awareness, are the main experiential activitiest.

DAY TWO: On the second day we build on our time together in the first day to discover our personal archetypes, and create responsible and sensitive spacess for enjoyable play in the erotic shadows. We do exercises and processes for our own and other people’s body awareness, healing and presence as well as stepping towards healing our difficulties in relating and intimacy, including safe shadow work.

By the end of the day we will be putting this all into practice in a range of simple exciting exercises. These will be conscious distillations of interactions more commonly associated with realms such as Domination/Submission, BDSM & Kink.

DAY THREE: On the third and final day we build on the trust, skills, bonding and energies of the weekend in advanced ways and with deeper connections and exercises, including some more substantial practices, blending everything together in profoundly satisfying experiences.

BDSM, Kink and D/s:

There are many deeply culturally embedded false beliefs about Domination/submission, BDSM & Kink.

Yet the reality is that:

  • When the focus is more on sensitive personal connection than on task-focussed activities, the connections and experiences are far more satisfying and fulfilling;
  • Whilst sex can be awesome, there are also vast new realms of erotic artistry to be discovered;
  • All your play can be based on satisfying authenticity rather than just about fantasy;
  • Subtle energies and sensitive emotions are welcomed and valued, (something that is often missing);
  • Slow responsible unfoldment of safe skills over time can be a deeply delicious meal of engagement;
  • You do not need to begin with a flawless fantasy persona and be utterly confident or exhibitionistic, whatever else you bring into the dynamic is useful;
  • Responsible discussion and planning actually strengthen the beautiful and deliciously dark and deep experiences;
  • Submissives are actually the most empowered person in any experience, and this will organically lead to more potent play.

Configurations & Expectations:

Singles, couples, and any relational groupings are welcome. Single people will be invited to pair or group randomly for exercises. All are designed to be empowering safe learning experiences that can be explored to whatever level feels comfortable and matches your degree of personal connection. You will never be expected to go beyond where you want to go. Learning happens at your own personal edges.

It is also completely possible to sit out of any exercise that you don’t wish to do, or indeed to step out if you change your mind. We very purposefully design the practices to be as accessible, simple and non-pressured as possible, but since every one of us is so unique any individual’s choice or sensitivities are totally honored. Even just witnessing now and again can be a valuable learning experience.

Any more info or questions or if you would like to discuss your participation please contact Phoenix on 0407 650026 or send a message here