PLEASE NOTE: Fiction & Reality. Whether you love and enjoy them or not, works of fiction are exactly that – fictitious/unreal. Some relatively recent works of fiction have promoted a potentially very unsafe way of approaching the shadow erotic via a fantasy world of unrealistic situations and individuals. If your main motivation to attend this workshop is because you love such books and want to recreate some of the interactions within them, it is still very relevant however please remember that being guided and supported into deep erotic connection and healing shadow-play will have very little to do with fiction and you may be invited to expand your viewpoint. Kinky romance fiction is not reality, and in our opinion these books really needed to be prefaced with a disclaimer that they were never intended to be templates for anyone’s real lives.
(Subject to fluidity and flexibility of course)
DAY ONE: Introductions, getting to know each other, having some fun, and discussing what we will do and how we will have a safe, exciting, deep time together.
We gently explore aspects of our developmental psychology such as conditioned shame and guilt (not to ‘get rid of them’, but simply to acknowledge these parts of ourselves as it is important to be aware of for our journey this weekend). Plus learning and practising methods of raw, honest connection, and how to discover your own personal levels and types of interest. (Freeing yourself from the assumed stereotypes.) Practical Authentic Relating exercises, healthy emotional expression, fun and exploratory sharing, movement, healing processes and body awareness, are the main experiential activitiest.
DAY TWO: On the second day we build on our time together in the first day to discover our personal archetypes, and create responsible and sensitive spacess for enjoyable play in the erotic shadows. We do exercises and processes for our own and other people’s body awareness, healing and presence as well as stepping towards healing our difficulties in relating and intimacy, including safe shadow work.
By the end of the day we will be putting this all into practice in a range of simple exciting exercises. These will be conscious distillations of interactions more commonly associated with realms such as Domination/Submission, BDSM & Kink.
DAY THREE: On the third and final day we build on the trust, skills, bonding and energies of the weekend in advanced ways and with deeper connections and exercises, including some more substantial practices, blending everything together in profoundly satisfying experiences.
There are many deeply culturally embedded false beliefs about Domination/submission, BDSM & Kink.
Yet the reality is that:
Singles, couples, and any relational groupings are welcome. Single people will be invited to pair or group randomly for exercises. All are designed to be empowering safe learning experiences that can be explored to whatever level feels comfortable and matches your degree of personal connection. You will never be expected to go beyond where you want to go. Learning happens at your own personal edges.
It is also completely possible to sit out of any exercise that you don’t wish to do, or indeed to step out if you change your mind. We very purposefully design the practices to be as accessible, simple and non-pressured as possible, but since every one of us is so unique any individual’s choice or sensitivities are totally honored. Even just witnessing now and again can be a valuable learning experience.